The little things that help me manage my stress
Hi all! If any of you know me, you’ll be aware that I’m quite partial to a moan and a cry, and I’m definitely under no illusion that I’m a ray of sunshine seven days a week. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not a ‘glass half full’ kinda gal, and actually despite my giggly nature am quite the pessimist.
If you’re like me, you’ll relate to the envy towards those happy-go-lucky type girls. You know – the kind that are always up for after work drinks or a night out. The kind that seem to breeze effortlessly through the week, juggling a full time job, social life, and still managing to be bubbly and full of energy. The kind that seem to turn any challenge into a success or a threat into an opportunity. If you’re that girl, I hate you. Only kidding – I want to be you.
At the end of the day though, we are who we are. And I’m a stressed out, glass half empty, ‘OH MY GOD, WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??’ kinda person. And I know I’m not the only one out there.
My early 20s have taught me that the things I really don’t want to do are the things that are going to help me succeed. Like attending blogger events, going to job interviews and taking on new projects. Although slightly terrifying, the past 18 months or so have really given me the confidence I lacked throughout my years at university. However, it’s also tested my mental health massively. Managing stress and a busy schedule isn’t something I cope with very well, and the more I take on the harder it gets to stay calm, grounded, and generally just not tired and grumpy 90% of the time.
Admittedly, we throw around the term ‘I’m so stressed‘ on a daily basis because truthfully, being stressed and letting others know we’re stressed gives us a sense of importance. I’m so busy, I must be valuable to someone. And it’s true – we are all trying to cram as much as possibly into our weekly planner because being busy does make us feel more fulfilled. However, as humans, we all cope and manage our stress and emotions differently (some more easily than others!)
When you’re a self confessed stress-head like myself, it’s important to take the time to breath, relax, and just put everything into perspective. My biggest flaw is jumping straight to the worst-case scenario, when actually things probably aren’t as bad as my little worried brain has calculated them to be. So here’s the few short-term things I do to help me stay balanced and calm when naturally I’m the most highly-strung person you’ll ever meet.
Invest in some new stationery (and use it!)
There’s nothing more satisfying than taking pen to paper. Actually, I lied – there’s nothing more satisfying than highlighting over pen on paper. But seriously, if you don’t jot down your to do list or pencil in your appointments and deadlines into a diary, start now. My favourite is the Kate Spade journal diary. At £35 its pretty pricey for a diary but hun, you deserve the best. Even if your appointments tend to shift around as you frantically try to fit everything is, its really helpful having a visual plan of the week ahead.
Run a bath
Preferably with Cowshed sleepy cow bath salts (£18). Pour some of this stuff into a hot tub and you’re sorted for the evening. Do what I do and shamelessly sit your laptop on top of the toilet seat and watch the latest episode of Riverdale. Bliss.
Light a candle with a relaxing scent
One of my favourites is the Neom Happiness candle (£16) that claims to boost positivity and balance emotions (yep, exactly what I need). Or if you want something more feel good and festive, the classic Yankee candle in Christmas Magic (£14) is always a winner.
Pamper your skin
My skin definitely takes the brunt of my emotion. When I’m feeling over-worked, tired and just generally – dare I say it – stressed, it shows. And I know – having breakouts makes you even more stressed. Its all a vicious vicious circle. Which is why its super important to me to make sure I look after my face. My favourite skincare products are Soap & Glory No Clogs Allowed Self Heating Mask, The Body Shop Camomille Cleanser (£16), and Origins Drink Up Intensive Night Mask (£20).
All of these things are short-term fixes, and the real question is – are we all trying to take on too much to prove ourselves? If you’re someone who has a to-do list the length of their arm, what do you do to help you get through it?